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Cruel Compendium #38 🏖️

Vulgar advice, American motherhood, and how to say "No❤️"

Jillian Anthony
Aug 24, 2021
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I’m Jillian Anthony, and this is Cruel Summer Book Club, a newsletter about change and living well. ICYMI, this week on the CSBC podcast I talked with life coach Catherine Andrews!

Also, I was a guest on the hilarious Receipts podcast this week! My comedian friends helped me revamp my Hinge profile, which was a humbling but truly revealing experience. Turns out, I’ve been dimming my own light. Give it a listen:

Twitter avatar for @jillathrillaJillian Anthony ✨ @jillathrilla
I’m a guest on today’s episode of @ReceiptsPod! Fashion icon @JennyGorelick and the hilarious but firm @zzdoublezz critique my Hinge profile. An embarrassing yet highly informative experience! Go listen!
UNHINGED: “Putting Out What You Want” Hinge Revamp (w/ Jillian Anthony & Zach Zimmerman)Listen to this episode from Receipts with Jenny on Spotify. It’s a special Receipts UNHINGED where Jenny and Andrew help update a brave single’s Hinge Profile. This week, it’s with Jillian Anthony (Cruel Summer Book Club) who just moved to Austin and is ready for a refresh, but NO one-night stands. …open.spotify.com

August 20th 2021

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I’m reading

Isaac Fitzgerald takes a nighttime walk in NYC with Garnette Cadogan, who wrote one of the most memorable essays I’ve ever read: Walking while Black

American motherhood vs. the American work ethic by Rani Molla

The paradigm of the ideal worker who’s completely available for work is predicated on the notion that someone else (typically a female spouse) will take care of child care and domestic labor.

“The ideal worker norm tells you that you have to be dedicated to your job 24-7, you have to have your cell phone with you at all times, you have to be constantly available for email, you have to be ready to drop everything to finish that report. Essentially, you’re supposed to be dedicating your whole life to your work,” Jessica Calarco, an associate professor of sociology at Indiana University, told Recode. “Simultaneously, the ideal motherhood norm tells mothers that they are supposed to be dedicating their entire lives to their children, that they’re supposed to be willing to drop everything to meet their kids’ needs and to make sure that their kids’ well-being is put before all other things.”

Amanda Montei writes about escaping her home life by becoming a “wine mom” during the pandemic, before she decided to go sober

Trapped in domesticity while desperately trying to hang on to myself, staying sober all the time felt like just another order from above. Through all this pain and uncertainty, I was also supposed to stay stuck in my body?

Comedian Pat Regan (someone I stan with the force of the sun) writes a beautiful piece about wishing he could protect his younger sister with Down syndrome, a critique of Mare of Eastown, and the tyranny of teens

These people who work from home have a secret: They have two jobs. By Rachel Feintzeig. Fascinating! I wonder how offline of a person you need to be to pull this off. Check out the how-to at overemployed.com.

Can reading make you happier? by Ceridwen Dovey. I’d never heard of bibliotherapy before—now I’m dying to try it.


Questionable self-care advice

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Is the fucking secret to a happy life just taking a long walk every morning Is this some kind of joke

August 19th 2021

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Support system

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Vision board

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Obsessions

  • 📝 Do a life audit with 100 Post-its

  • 🤬 Sign up for the Vulgar Advice newsletter to get shit done

  • 🙅‍♀️ A great list of ways to professionally say “No ❤️”

  • 🖍️ Remember Kid Pix?! h/t A Thing or Two

  • 🎈 I CANNOT stop watching this baby float away

  • 🦉 Owl Karen

  • 💦 Refreshing swimming pool photos

  • 🧜🏾‍♀️ Let’s play mermaids

  • 💬 Not interested anymore? Just say so!!!

  • 🏋️‍♀️ You’re a woman working out, written by a man

  • ☠️ What you clicked on most last time: How summer 2021 feels

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me, a relaxed girl planning a fun vacation: ok so I’ll start the google doc

August 13th 2021

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I don’t know anyone NOT in Greece actually

August 22nd 2021

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i love the adult friends part of the relationship with your parents. i get to say “yeah i’m scared of commitment because you and dad fucked me up” at lunch and we just laaaaaugh. pass the salt girl we’re having fun.

August 20th 2021

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Minerva moment


Anthem

“ccb to be sad” by Ider

Listen to the full CSBC playlist here


Mood

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Cruel compliments

Twitter avatar for @ohevieEvie Ebert @ohevie
I DIDN'T ASK thank you for this @jillathrilla
This is my go-to boundary“I didn’t ask.”cruelsummerbookclub.substack.com

August 17th 2021

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"You are not responsible for other people’s feelings. You are responsible for showing up for yourself, protecting your own peace, and setting appropriate boundaries with the people you allow into your life" @jillathrilla 👏
cruelsummerbookclub.substack.com/p/this-is-my-g…This is my go-to boundary“I didn’t ask.”cruelsummerbookclub.substack.com

August 17th 2021

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