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Love this! I definitely want to try a no spend period as my post break up shopping got a bit out of control 🥴 I also start my day with morning pages which I just can't imagine not anymore. Thank you for sharing!

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Oct 23, 2023Liked by Jillian Anthony

I was accidentally sober for part of last year and realized that alcohol really takes a toll on my mental well-being -- and for so long I thought that was just my baseline mood! I’ve noticed a huge difference in my day-to-day well-being now that I am sober, and having the mindset of “this activity brings me a little bit of joy now but a lot of hurt later” has been really powerful in adjusting what things I cut out of my life that aren’t worth feeling miserable for (social media, eating meat, etc). It’s helped me break my habit of seeing these choices as restriction that then becomes an enticing taboo (like many fad diets). Realizing that I enjoy living a happy life made sobriety an easy choice for me to follow!

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Oct 18, 2023Liked by Jillian Anthony

The most surprisingly helpful thing that’s helped curb my impulsive purchases has been the Pocket app. Every time I come across something I think I want/need, I save it and tag it with “stuff to buy.” If it’s something I actually want, I’ll make the effort to go and find the link I saved. If not, I clearly didn’t want it that badly in the first place. In the 8 months or so since doing this, I’ve only gone back to look at 2 things and only went ahead and purchased one - which was a gift.

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Oct 13, 2023Liked by Jillian Anthony

I am annoyed about the alcohol thing too. For me it’s after two drinks. If I have a third I feel crummy the next day. I also hate drinking during the week. In some ways it’s easier to just not drink at all than try to be more conscious about my drinking! Which surprises me. Still working on this one too.

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Love this and appreciate the transparency! I’m someone who is fantastic at spending money even though I feel like I don’t buy anything. It’s food. It’s always eating out and food. Which, for the most part, I feel good about -- but am trying to make sure that I’m making conscious food choices. I’m all for trying new places and eating well, but sometimes I’m just lazy and could do better than ramen a 4th time in a week. 😂

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I love this kind of very detailed breakdown and relate to all of it - thriving with boundaries, relationship with alcohol, etc. One boundary that has worked for me is to limit drinking to 2-3 days a week - I generally stay dry Monday - Thursday, unless there's a special occasion. "I try not to drink during the week" feels like a good rule of thumb - semi-restrictive, but not all-encompassing. Now I'm working on a 3-drink limit when I do indulge (if I have a fourth drink, I almost always regret it.)

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So inspiring! I just spent a small fortune visitng friends and attending a wedding in SF last weekend, so this is just the reset I needed! I'm curious how you'll approach this with holidays coming up? How do you budget for gift shopping?

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